Common Questions

Question # 1: “How can therapy help me with my anxiety?”

Answer:  As an individual you act the way you do because of your perception of your life experiences.  If they are not accurate for you today the therapist would use a Cognitive Behavioral approach to help you understand your behaviors and decide if you want to change them.

Let’s say as a child your parents argued and there was domestic violence involved.  At the time in your life the best decision you could make was to leave the scene of arguing.  However, when it occurs now between you and your spouse never resolve marital issues that come up. A therapist using CBT can help you change that behavior.


Question # 2: “I want marriage counseling but my spouse doesn’t, should I come alone, will it work?”

Answer: The simple answer is “Yes.”  Marriage partners develop patterns of behavior. These patterns, mostly unspoken, are developed over time some are positive and some are not.  You tried to convey how you felt to your spouse when he said or did something.  He responds by getting angry, stomped out of the room with days of silence to follow.  I do believe you can say anything to another person provided you say it the right way, Communication.  Sometimes it is as simply as changing the words you use, “I feel hurt when this happens,” rather than “You make me feel….”  Change how you react to your spouse and they most likely will change as well.


Question # 3: “My son has something wrong with him but I do not know how to describe it.  Since he graduated college and returned home to find a job he just stays in his room.  He has no friends, no outside contacts and no job.  He doesn’t see this as a problems so he will not come into see a therapist.  What can we do?”

Answer:  This is a difficult situation when you see another person does have a problem but they are unwilling to admit it or seek help.  Because he is in your home this problem now affects everyone living there.  It is not just his problem but yours as well.  The best thing to do is seek a therapist to help you understand your son’s behavior.  From there you can look at interventions that could be applied to get him help.  In some cases a home intervention is a good place to start.


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Question # 4: “My teenager is angry, testy, and defiant.  He doesn’t follow our rules, only when he wants to do so. What can we do with my teenager?”

Answer:  Being an adolescent is as difficult as being a parent.  An adolescent is  caught between childhood and adulthood.  All the wants of adulthood, sometimes without the maturity.  Our parenting classes can help clarify how to respond to your teenager.  We also tailor the information to fit for a 10 year old, a 5 year old or how to respond to a 2-3 year old.  They all require different age-appropriate responses.  Remember, you were not given a parenting manual at birth, how should you know everything?


Question # 5: “I have depression and sometimes Panic Attacks.  I don’t want to take medication.  Is there another way to deal with my issues without medication?”

Answer: Yes, psychotherapy has been shown to be equally effective as medication management.  Most individuals concerned about medication will try therapy first.  If necessary you and your therapist can have a discussion later if your symptoms do not subside.  Our therapist work closely with our Psychiatrist so you won’t have to explain your circumstances all over again to a new person.  The psychiatrist will have access to your treatment record ahead of your appointment and discuss your case with your therapist.


Question # 6: “My adult son moved back home with his spouse of 5 years and their two children.  They do not help, the house gets dirty, disorganized and they do not contribute money or labor.  My spouse is irritable and yells at my son.  What can we do?”

Answer: This is a common pattern that has occurred because of the economy.  Families have patterns of interaction as well as couples.  Your son has slipped back into his “old” pattern of relating in his earlier years.  Mom and Dad are taking care of all his needs and now his family’s just like in high school!  Yes, your family would benefit from family therapy.  The structure of your family has changed, so there needs to be a “new” way of relating to each other that spells out responsibilities for all.